DATING

is it just me, or is dating super awkward? how is the weather, tell me about school, work, what you want to do with your life? It is like a fricken job interview.

Some things I want to know ::
How do you feel about Stay at home moms? Do you like scrabble enough to play it daily? Were you closer to your mom or your dad growing up? What do you want to do for a living? Do you want kids? If your child's team needed a coach no matter the sport, would you step up? How often do you do laundry? Do you like sea food? Did you go to private school or public? Do you like food? Can you change my tires or the oil? When can you see yourself settling down? Where do you want to live/raise your family? Mountains or beach? How many movies have you cried in? What are your feelings on meat? Would you mind if I did your clothes shopping? Are you a pet person?

I wish I could send out a survey with these and a few other questions before I had to sit through dinner.

history rant

So much on my mind.
I was reading an article for class where they compared the movie Pocahontas to if they made a love story about Anne Frank and a German soldier. That is absurd. I understand that Pocahontas might not be exactly historically correct and it wasn't as peaceful as they portrayed, however, it is a KIDS MOVIE, what did you want them o do? I don't know about you, but when Ko'Ko'Um died I understood how horrible that time was, and I didn't need much more of an explanation. Especially at such a young age. So this topic went on in class to be about Thanksgiving and how Pilgrims and Indians should not be a form of dress up for fun for the kids. WHAT? Really? What harm is that doing? Someone in my class said, "Well if there was a holiday for the holocaust would we have kids dress up as Nazi's and Jews?" UMMMM REALLY I DO NOT THINK THIS IS EVEN DEBATABLE AND I AM SO ANNOYED WITH THE IDIOTS.

gypsy queen

So I am a 7-11 frequenter. Not as often as I am hitting up Starbucks, but I take the children that I watch to get slurpees every Friday or on special occasions. (After a dentist appointment, r an extremely hot day) Anyways, my point is not really about 7-11. It is about rules, and teaching them to your children. They learn through example, and from trying things that do not necessarily pan out the way they had planned.
So it is Friday after school and we pull u to 7-11. I tell the boys "you can either get a slurpee or a candy." without thinking that through they know they want a slurpee, so we go to the machine and make a mixture of all of the flavors, because when you are 6 & 7 that is what is cool. So while I am finishing up the slurpees, the elder of the two walks over to the candy aisle, I didn't think anything of it until we got to the counter. When I reached to pay for the slurpees, the 7-11 man said "I think someone may have something else." I WAS SHOCKED. I kindly asked the boy to return the candy to the aisle, and to apologize, he did. He walked to the car with his head down, knowing what was to come.
I had to tell his mom. I see this family multiple times a week and I know these kids like family. I know he did not mean any harm, but I also know that he knows it is not right to do that, and it is not okay to think he can pull a fast one on ME. She had him tell her the story (very smart) and he apologized to her again and they talked about why this is not right. I think she handled this perfectly, she is a great mother and the kids are generally very well behaved. They are boys, and boys will be boys. All children, and grown ups learn from their mistakes, and it makes us who we are.

On a more personal note, when I was 6 years old I went to the dentist. I am a weird child and I love the dentist. Now I love it because of the feeling after they clean my teeth, I used to love it for the prizes. We got to pick one prize from the prize closet while the dentist talked to mom about what I needed to do better. It always seemed that I needed to floss more. Anyways one time, I thought I would be SNEAKY. I took 16 rings. You know just what I needed. Who needs 16 rings anyways? I thought I was going to get away with it, but my mom checked my bag to see what prize I chose, and BAM - 16 rings. I was in trouble. My mom made me walk back into the dentist and dump them on the counter, IN FRONT OF EVERYONE. I remember this because it is probably the most embarrassing moment of my life to date. But oooh did I learn my lesson.

opinions

So this video wouldn't let me embed it but here is the youtube link

So if you don't watch it, it is just some stereotypes in children's entertainment. The lazy Mexicans, the African American always being a natural hip hop dancer, smart Asians who do kung-fu.

However when I was a child, I know I did not think of t like this. Maybe because I grew up in a neighborhood where we had a very diverse cul-de-sac crew. I had my best friend Kimberly who is Asian. and I was at her house all of the time. Next door were two Lebanese girls who always played with us as well. Across the street was a Jewish family. At the top of the street an African American family, there was an Italian family, and a Chaldean family. All of the kids from all of these different backgrounds, and we would all go outside and play games and go to each others houses and it never even occurred to us that we were all different. Maybe because besides the color of our skin, we weren't.

So while I can see the stereotypes being portrayed, I do not think children are that easily persuaded. Maybe if these ideas are reinforced by he family, but I do not think media or movies are what make people racists.

judgement

i saw this in a magazine. and i loved it.
it's ok
1.to wish they made those never-lose-'em mittens you string through your coat for adults.
2.to dig the pregnancy test out of the trash hours later to make sure (phew!) it still is negative.
3.to long for the days when gentlemen carried hankies for your cold, sniffly nose.
4.to put your name on your stapler at work. if that makes you anal gurl,well that's you.
5.to tell your friends you love them- stone cold sober.
6. to be vaguely offended when the takeout place gives you two sets of utensils for your one-person dinner.
7. to judge people. there, we said it, it's fine. it's how you know what not to do yourself!

MY COMMENTARY:
1- i lose one of every mitten so this would be helpful.
2- this has never happened to me, but i can imagine the relief.
3- my dad does this. hankies are gross though, carrying mucus around in your pocket, but oh boy has it come in handy numerous times
4- some things are just not meant for sharing.
5- i love you.
6- i love food.
7- thank god this is okay.

accidents happen

... but really? that is where that sign had to go?

wow.

Yesterday when I was skimming through the Wall Street Journal, (I just read the headlines so I know a summary of what is going on in the world) I came upon this article. At first I was speechless, what 8 year old wears make up? Yes, flavored chapstick or even a lip gloss, but make up? The article goes on to talk about 8 year old putting on moisturizer (that's fine), lip gloss, eyeshadow, and mascara. This boggles my mind. MAYBE for a special occasion like a father daughter dance, or a wedding, I will let my daughter add a little shine to her everyday style. However, what kind of message are we sending out when 8 year olds feel the need to wear make up. I don't even think middle schoolers should wear it. My younger sister is 14, and yes she does wear simple make up, some mascara and or eye liner, maybe a little blush. However some of the girls at her school cake it on and it is ridiculous, especially because there parents are most likely funding these purchases. The article says that the average 8 year old is spending $9.20/month on beauty products. I do not wear a great deal of make up, and I probably spend that much in 3 months.

where is waldo?

avoid awkward moments. for you and your children. If it is pajama day, remind your child. You don't want them to be the only one who forgot!

jeez.

YOUR PET IS NOT YOUR CHILD.
AND THIS WOULD NOT BE OKAY WITH A CHILD EITHER.